I came across a great article that I read today, and I think it’s something my readers will be interested in as well. This is about boys in general, but I do think it applies to girls as well. Technology has really taken over the generation today (as I sit typing this from my laptop, while sitting on the floor with my 14 month old lol).
The general census of my blog readers are women ages 25-34 who are mothers, so it’s up to us to try to put a stop to this problem. Read the article and read on at the bottom as I have a great website to help (My Job Chart). Also check out the picture that illustrates the technology usage, what an eye opener!!
I recently read the book entitled, “The Demise of Guys” and was totally shocked at the
statistics reinforcing what I instinctively already knew in my head. As the author put it,
“guys are flaming out”. Crashing and burning. Biting the dust.
Well, I for one, am not letting my guys ages 15, 10, 8 and almost 6 “flame out”. Nope…
over my dead body is that going to happen.
These guys are growing up in a world that would have no problem if they just completely
wasted all the potential they have wrapped up inside of them. Just chewed them up and
spit them out. These guys need a man that has been down the road a little further than
they have been, to help lead the way and educate them about all the pitfalls out there.
That is what a real man does right?
So why are guys going down in flames? Well, there are a number of contributing factors
but the two biggest reasons fit into the same category: technology. Specifically, video
games and online pornography.
The average young person will spend 10,000 hours gaming by age 21. What? With so
many boys running around now with a gaming device in their front pocket, I’m not really
that surprised. Every time there is a spare minute, out comes the video game and the
time wasting begins. The author put this in context when he stated that it takes the
average college student only half that time – 4,800 hours – to earn a bachelor’s degree.
Let’s see here… a college degree or hours of mind numbing gaming? Unfortunately,
many guys are choosing the latter to their own demise. I’m not bashing the occasional
virtual adventure on a winter day, but 10,000 hours? Come on.
The pornography business is picking up speed at a staggering rate and destroying guys
left and right as it barrels down the tracks. One in three boys is now considered a
“heavy” porn user, viewing nearly two hours of porn every week. Really? Seriously?
Worldwide, pornography is almost a 100 billion dollar industry. This filth is peddled to
anyone that will take a look, with the hope that they will take another look and yet
another until they are stuck in an addictive cycle that destroys their ability to have
normal interactions with others, especially those of the opposite sex.
Well, as disheartening as these statistics may be… take courage, I have a few simple
solutions to consider:
First, boys need more to do. They need to be given more responsibility earlier on in life.
How about some jobs around the house for heavens sake? It’s hard to game or get in
trouble on the internet while you have a lawn mower or a paintbrush in your hand! Have
them get off the couch or come out of their room, where they are more than likely
gaming in seclusion, and do something productive. They might cuss you under their breath when they are younger but I believe they will praise your name later in life.
Shoot, maybe even sincerely thank you face to face! Wouldn’t that be nice? The men
that have my respect are real men that know how to work hard.
Secondly, boys need some goals. A clear vision of what they could or should be doing
with their time. If they aren’t gaming so much or looking at porn, that leaves a lot of time
to do something worthwhile. So sit down with your son, nephew, friend, whoever, and
help open their eyes to the many other meaningful things that they could be doing with
their time. Read good books, learn how to play an instrument or take on a new
language. Get interested in a hobby like hunting or fishing or enroll them in some other
organized sport. Maybe it’s weight lifting or running or mountain biking. Help them set
some financial goals and teach them how to make good financial decisions. Help them
understand that good things come to those that wait. Maybe it’s saving up for the car
they might be dreaming of when they get into High School. As they set some goals and
then make the effort to achieve those goals they will have an increased sense of self
worth. Not some lame, fake, and fleeting self worth that comes from achieving another
level on a video game or being momentarily aroused by yet another pornographic
You know what’s going to happen if we can keep them out of this technology trap?
They are going to do better in school, have better social skills, be more self-motivated,
learn how to work and make good money decisions. All in all, they are going to be more
pleasant to be around. Bonus!
Now, don’t get me wrong. I am not saying to go on complete and total technology lock
down. Don’t freak out and pile up the iPhones and start a bon-fire or anything. These
little gadgets are totally amazing if used for the right purposes. We just need to make
sure that these guys that we are raising are given some guidance so they aren’t the
ones that get run over by this technological train barreling down the tracks.
The demise of guys? Well, for my 4 guys it’s going to have to be over my dead body.
Gregg Murset is the Founder of www.myjobchart.com and father of 4 boys and 2 girls.“
I have posted about My Job Chart before, and I really love this FREE service that’s offered. You can schedule your children’s chores and rewards, plus lots more. Technology can be used in a good/positive way, and this is an example of that. I recommend checking out My Job Chart, why not, it’s free!!